Humility is the Way Through the Fire….

How many times has your feelings been hurt or you have been looked over when you try to do your best? Situations back you in the corner and you feel like a clip in the movie Rocky IV, you know the one where he fight the Russian. And Satan is saying “I must break you.” The Rocky series are one of my favorite movies.

No matter how ruff, painful or challenging the fights are in the ring Rocky never gives up. When you look at his character you realize one thing, He is always humble. Apollo Creed died when he fought the Russian and I believe it was because he was so prideful in skill and self that he did not take the time to get to know his opponent.

Rocky warmed Apollo to take it easy, winning is not everything. “There’s nothing to prove.” But Apollo did not listen. He got in the ring with no STRATEGY and was DEFEATED within the second round. In our walk with Christ we go through stages of battles. No battle is the same and the battles get more challenging the closer we walk with him.

The Bible gives us a strategy on how to defeat our enemies. First, we must remember we wrestle not against flesh and blood. Second, Jesus already gave us the victory. And third, vengeance is mine says the Lord.

Humble yourselves before the Lord and He will lift you up.

Humility is one of those make or break virtues. You can either try and fight your way to prove that you deserve justice as a human being and fair treatment or you can take life for what it is and understand that these are spiritual battles.

When we fight spiritual battles we follow spiritual principles. We do not fight physical but with Godly wisdom and knowledge. Getting as low as we can to ground in a form of worship to our Lord is our highest obedience. When it is time for war God does not need our flesh.

No one can name any good thing that came from the flesh. So in these times when we feel mistreated, looked over, abused, criticized and disrespected we must humble ourselves, keep our mouth closed and stand back and watch the salvation of the Lord. The greatest part about humility is….we take our loss in the beginning we won’t have to take it later.

And need I say…..

Sit at my right hand until I make your enemies your footstool…

We know as Christians, Jesus said those great and mighty words. Therefore, the next time your in the fire don’t be like Apollo and sound a trumpet before your enemies. Do not boost in your talents and skills. Because having talents and skills does not mean you have been ANOINTED to go through the fire.

Many people want an “anointing” from God without knowing that the “anointing” is to walk through dangerous territory and not get killed!!! Yes, if you are not anointed for peril you will surely die. It’s a supernatural event. Jesus took the cross, Daniel was in the lions den, The three Hebrew boys was in a fiery furnace. How did they survive.?

They were anointed for the trial.

So, the next time you ask God for an anointing be sure you know what you ask. Are you ready to humble yourselves, are you ready to take the back seat? Are you ready to be disrespected or lied on and treated cold? Are you ready to not say a mumbling word? Then you my friend, are READY FOR THE FIRE!

But I say fear not! Because in the fire Jesus shows up. In the fire, others can see God. In the fire Satan bows down….In the fire you are purified. WHY, in the fire?

Because God is an Awee!!! Consuming fire and anything that is not like Him will not be able to stand! Not to mention, recall our brother Moses. Was he not in the presence of a burning bush and God spoke to Him? God is the FIRE!

I leave you with this my dear reader. I have seen many victories won by humbly surrendering to God….And you too can grow higher in the Lord when you remember to get low in the flesh…. Are you going to be prepared like Rocky and have a strategy to win your battle? Or are you going to parade and dance around like Apollo Creed and get killed before you even began?

Our Christian walk has so many highs and lows but Glory awaits us on the other side of this…


The Happy Housewife


Girl Put on Your Makeup On!

Three little birds sat on my window

And they told me I don’t need to worry

Summer came like cinnamon, so sweet

Little girls, double-dutch on the concrete


During this time while the rest of the world is focused on what I would call the “crown” pandemic, it is a must to remember how blessed we are. Using this time to rediscover ourselves, create new habits, dream new dreams, set new goals etc. Reinvent the person that you are. Have you ever considered what a “new you” would look like?

I started this blog out with a few lyrics from one of my favorite songs, “Girl Put Your Record On” by Corinne Bailey Rae. The COVID 19 pandemic has stirred something up in the hearts and minds of the American people. But, with the world focused on that…lets focus on us. I titled this blog post “Girl Put Your Makeup On” because makeup is something that adds beauty to our natural features. If we adorn ourselves on the outside and we get positive feedback when we are looking “GORGEOUS,” then why not “MAKEUP” our insides.

If we adorn ourselves on the outside, then why not adorn ourselves on the inside?


How we feel about ourselves will reflect in our appearance. The things we put in our body to eat, how much sleep we get and how we treat others all reflect the inside condition of who we are. It is our “substance.” As a nation, we were given a “stay-at-home order.” We cannot go outside. Now, that order is being lifted and I considered a few things while I had to stay at home.

I considered…..with every season in life we must evolve, revamp and renew our personal self image. Totally change who we were in the past and become new creations, just like it mentions in the Bible.

Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here!

Sooo…ladies, the makeup that I am talking about is your attitude, personality and character. If you were someone who use to be negative, try being positive. If you gave up on yourself for making a poor choice, turn it around and make a good one. If you use to not treat your body so well and it functions with “lag” and “no energy.’ Change up your habits. If you have always wanted to go back to school and pick up a college degree or a new trade, then do it!

Maybe sometimes we got it wrong, but it’s all right

The more things seems to change, the more they stay the same

Ooo, don’t you hesitate

If you wanted to start a new business or get your finances in order, do it! If you want to love yourself more, do it! Whatever was not producing that good fruit in your life that you can see yourself having in your head, then get rid of it. So, how do you know where to start this new “makeup.” I personally, always start with the word of God. In the morning is my personal time of devotion. Take some time to say a prayer and invite God into your day. It will make a world of difference for you.

I can always tell how my day will go when I don’t take a moment to align myself in prayer and thank God for waking me up. I may get cranky or aggravated. We never know what we have to face with each new day that is approaching, so why not pray. I bet you thought I was going to talk about lipstick, eyeshadow, blush and mascara…didn’t you!! lol #fooledya.

Those things are fine but most important is you. How are you feeling, looking, loving and living? Are you just making it day to day or are you enjoying your life? Are you living your God-given purpose? How is the condition of your house. Are you hoarding or cleaning. Do you need to clean out closets and throw away stuff that has not been used for years and years?

Hopefully, you are motivated by now. I am going to leave these amazing lyrics to the song that inspired me to write this blog. Sometimes you have to turn on your favorite record, dance around your house, laugh with your loved ones, make your self look really pretty. These simple but powerful habits make you really feel like an “empowered woman.” We were created for beauty and life giving. We were created to add flavor to everyone and everything we touch.

We are birthers of not only children but ideas, culture and innovation…So Girllll when you come out of COVID 19 as the country is slowly opening back up..Do not forget to put your MAKEUP on and while your at throw your favorite RECORD on as well.

Blessings and Happy Living,


Happy House Wife

Lyrics to “Girl Put Your Record On”

Three little birds sat on my window
And they told me I don’t need to worry
Summer came like cinnamon, so sweet
Little girls, double-dutch on the concreteMaybe sometimes we got it wrong, but it’s all right
The more things seems to change, the more they stay the same
Ooo, don’t you hesitateGirl, put your records on, tell me your favorite song
You go ahead, let your hair down
Sapphire and faded jeans
I hope you get your dreams
Just go ahead, let your hair down
You’re gonna find yourself somewhere, somehowBlue as the sky, sunburnt and lonely
Sipping tea in the bar by the road side
(Just relax, just relax)
Don’t you let those other boys fool you
Gotta love that Afro hairdoMaybe sometimes we feel afraid, but it’s all right
The more you stay the same, the more they seem to change
Don’t you think it’s strange?Girl, put your records on, tell me your favorite song
You go ahead, let your hair down
Sapphire and faded jeans
I hope you get your dreams
Just go ahead, let your hair down
You’re gonna find yourself somewhere, somehowJust more than I could take
Pity for pity’s sake
Some nights kept me awake
I thought that I was stronger
When you gonna realize that you don’t even have to try any longer?
Do what you want toGirl, put your records on, tell me your favorite song
You go ahead, let your hair down
Sapphire and faded jeans
I hope you get your dreams
Just go ahead, let your hair down
Girl, put your records on, tell me your favorite song
You go ahead, let your hair down
Sapphire and faded jeans
I hope you get your dreams
Just go ahead, let your hair down

Ooo, you’re gonna find yourself somewhere, somehow



“Is My Prince Coming or What?” Even Cinderella Got Her Glass Slipper Back


We all want the perfect fairy beginning once we become a wife. We find ourselves engulfed with our Prince’s every move ” he’s so perfect“, “he’s so loving“. We finally made it over the long road of singleness and now it is time to build our dream that we carried in our blissful imaginations. We grew up watching movies like Cinderella and Snow White. Ever since we were little girls playing house with Barbie and Ken, we knew we were born for this role. After consuming our early childhood mind with fairy tales and books we begin planning. Planning to get that darn glass slipper. Just what is it about that shoe that makes it so magical? Is it that it belongs to you and you want it back, or is it the idea that at the right time destiny would call for you through something you left behind so suddenly.

We live in our humble little home wearing our everyday casual clothing, we wish to replace some day, with the fancy liking’s of Vogue Magazine and Cosmopolitan designer threads. We see photos everywhere of couples holding hands and taking long walks in the park holding ice cream cones in their hand eagerly awaiting our turn. We have it all planned out. The wedding, the tons of people, the perfect venue, but no groom. In our mind we know how we want him to look, act, smell and dress. we even have his salary and lifestyle all planned out to fulfill our castle accommodations.

This mystery man lands himself somewhere between Brad Pitt and Denzel Washington in a Hollywood blockbuster movie. You know the films where you find yourself having a girls’ night out with a few of the other ladies who are currently awaiting prince charming to come riding in on his horse to test your foot in the glass slipper. The film capitalizes on the strong stature and well groomed hair these men have, gorgeous blue or brown eyes and perfect lips that extend the “all so envied” forehead kiss. I know you ladies know what I am talking about because before I got married I built my mystery man bubble too…haha

In a perfect world our new husband knows all about us. Enchanting and romantic he is, fulfilling our deepest desires. I approach marriage as a woman who knew what I was just about to dive into. I had prepared myself and got my credit in a nice place. I am a very OCD type of woman so my house is always tidy. My mother is an awesome cook. I grew up on collard greens, macaroni and cornbread and all the bells and whistles of urban cuisine. The check-list of perfect mate was all in order.

We can look at the story of Cinderella herself. She led a life of dominate servitude. Finding herself surrounded by over jealous female bullies, her step sisters and step mother. Cinderella never allowed her atmosphere to ruin her happiness. One day she knew prince charming would come calling. She had no means, no money and never owned a thing for herself, but she had hope. Many of you, just like Cinderella have a hope and a dream of becoming married. When you hold on to something so meaningful you give it life.

She never once lost her sight. If she had to sing, she sang. Dance, she danced. Sew, she sewed. Nothing killed her dreams. When we become super consumed and worried about what we look like or if we are pretty enough and built perfectly we lose our focus on the slipper. The glass slipper,in my opinion, represents a promise. It represents something that is tailor-made only for you. If you ever think ” I’ll never be married”. ” No one loves me”. ” I have children all ready who wants a “ready-made-family”, you are breaking your shoe. There is someone who longs for you and is looking only for you, and as we saw it in the movie he will not stop looking until he finds you!

Your glass slipper is waiting for you. At the perfect time and in the perfect moment it will seek you out. I am a child of God and the bible says that ” a man that finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord”. I want to encourage all the Cinderellas out there that your Prince will find you. You do not have to have fancy clothes or a house. You can children or you can be without a child. You can be broke or you can be well off. You can have long hair, short hair ,carry extra weight or not carry any weight at all. Whatever you are and wherever you are and in whatever condition you may be in it will all be conducive to your glass slipper.

Do not worry about what is going on in the next castle or how the last queen’s king came calling. You just keep your mind on your hopes and dreams. I want to encourage you in your waiting. Enjoy your singleness. Enjoy whatever state you are in and try to be content. It may get lonely and you may have more Netflix and girls night out than you can stand, but I want to ensure you my dear reader…that when he comes a courting he will bring it all. All you need to become all you ever will be. The Famous singer Beyonce said ” If you like then you should put a ring on it”. I say if you like it put a glass slipper on it. Our feet represent our walk in life and we want to be crystal clear about where we are headed, especially in marriage.

Once my prince came calling I tried my slipper on, and it was a perfect fit. I finally got my own glass slipper! Just like in a department store I’m sure there are plenty of woman who try on glass slippers, but there is no need to rush or show up early to the store. There is no once a year black friday sale on glass slippers. You don’t even have to pay for it.  Your shoe will fit you and only you. Your shoe will be the completion to your dreams. He will have one and you will have the other making it a perfect pair. Ken will have Barbie, Snow white will get her kiss and you my dear reader will finally get your glass slipper!

Relax, dance, sing, serve unloving people. Grow where ever you are at in your life and love it. When the time is right if you have to use mice as your footman, a pumpkin as your carriage or run to make it somewhere at the strike of midnight you will get what you hoped for. It will come to find you and out of the abundance of beautiful woman in every shape form and background he will only be looking for you.

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“Who Doesn’t Enjoying a Good Wreath for Fall”

fullsizeoutput_7f8So, fall season is fast approaching or should I say “making an entrance.”. In desperate hopes that it will be here soon, I started decorating my home in anticipation. The moment the temperature dropped “just a little bit, here in Kansas” I pulled out the pumpkin spice. Pumpkin spice candles, wax melts for decorative, fragrant warmers, leaves, gold and orange glass pumpkin ornaments for my tables as well as pinecones, fo-corn on the cob and floral arrangements.

You would have thought the leaves were turning brown and bright orange outside, as they do this time of year, by the way my home appears. I noticed one tree in our front yard with turned leaves that said “hello Rosalyn” your fall decor is not in vain” I am here!.

To brighten the occasion, I filled our cookie jars ever so strategically with iced oatmeal cookies and started baking goodies for my family. As a housewife, I keep flour, eggs, butter, and sugar in our pantry. I filled our fall leaf inspired candy dishes with candy corns, Reeses and white chocolate Kit Kats. Needless to say, when the kids came home they were just as excited about fall as I am.fullsizeoutput_7da

My second oldest daughter Ania said “mom fall threw-up in our house!” “Threw-up, ok” wait until Christmas, it will explode with every silver and white decor I can get my crafty hands on, to say the least.

Well, enough rambling. I completed our fall wreath for the front door today, and it came out so gorgeous I decided to share it on my blog. I have been on “blogcation.” The summer came around, the kids were out of school. Therefore I choose to stop what I was doing and relax as well. Here are a few pictures of our lovely wreath. It was hanging on our front door at first. The wind started to blow aggressively and led me to bring it in and hang in at our garage entry.

Not to mention, why not enjoy the work of my hands with my family. Strangers get to see the handy work as they drive up and down the street, but it looked so beautiful I thought might as well allow my family to see it too. This gives me a reason to go out craft shopping and buy up deco mesh, ribbon and pinecones because I just have to make one for the front door.


I can’t wait until the pumpkin patches open up, what will I think of next!


Happy Housewife

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The Lord Loves His Ladies

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At first glance, if you are a believer in Jesus, you would say “yes I know He loves me.” We all desire to be loved. We want love from our children, spouses, friends and strangers. As women our existence thrives off of connections evolved in love.

A warm smile, a hug, flowers, kind words. Anything that makes us feel appreciated we want to receive. But how often are we able to recognize God’s love for us. God’s love is not good enough because we can’t see Him. There is no handsome face to make a connection with. There is no strong stature to cuddle with and make you feel safe. He’s just not evident enough? Or is He?

What we can see with our physical eyes can fool us. Jesus shows us love by doing little things you may not have thought about. Jesus cannot be compared to another because He is all the man that anyone women or person will ever need.

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But let’s get to the ladies. I am drawn to John 4. The woman at the well. Jesus made time to see about her. Therefore He will make time to see about you. Jesus offered the woman eternal life. Today we may want the romantic Hallmark movie but that will not be satisfying.

The love from another human is imperfect but Christ love is perfect. He wants to provide us with security, protection, stability, wisdom, patience, joy, grace, love. I know, I didn’t say money, houses or land. I mentioned virtue. Physical items can be obtained easy with money.

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Virtue,modesty, tranquillity, peace of mind cannot be purchased. These things can only come from Him. Today if you find yourself missing love. That special someone is not around or the kids are giving you a hard time. I invite you to remember Jesus loves you. Until next blog…


The Happy House Wife


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Ground Turkey Lettuce Wraps

Lunch time calls for something light. It is super hot outside and spring/summer has finally made an entrance. Today I wanted to whip up something quick and fresh. It took about ten minutes to make.

So if your hungry and want something light, try these awesome turkey wraps. Here’s the recipe:


Ground Turkey

1 Head romaine lettuce

1 Green pepper (sliced long)

1 Red pepper (sliced long)


In a skillet brown the ground turkey add the sliced green and red pepper. Add whatever seasonings you like. Once the ground is brown placed mixture on a pretty plate along with fresh washed romaine lettuce leaves and serve.

See, good quality doesn’t have to be complicated. Until next blog…


The Happy House Wife

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Which Eye Shadow Color is Best?

Recently, I shared a photo of eye colors. I thought it would be helpful to share with some beauty lovers on how to choose the correct eyeshadow shade. With all the magazines, commercials and media we can get in a frenzy over the perfect “look.”

Back when I started getting into makeup I researched what was done in the early 1920s. I did this because that was the age of swing, jazz, and tv actresses were the “go-to’s on beauty tips. What I discovered was woman need to bring out their own natural beauty.

What ever feature you were blessed with, that’s the one you allow to shine. If you have high cheek bones, full lips, freckles, almond eyes etc. Make them the star of the show.

If you have brown eyes then green, purple or mauve shades are best. If your eyes are blue then brown eye shadow is just perfect. I wanted to encourage you today. It’s not what you put on your face that makes you gorgeous. It’s what shines from the inside out. Our beauty comes from within us. How we treat others and how we live our lives will be the greatest beauty tip.

But for the sake of this blog post, you can have beautiful makeup and let your eyes stand out. Here’s a chart on eyeshadow selection. Until next blog…


The Happy House Wife

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My Birthday Weekend “I met Pioneer Woman” And I Ate Pretty Good Too!

“A little bit of Heaven sitting in the Drummond rocking chair outside the lodge”

Hello everyone! I hope all you mothers had a wonderful day yesterday. I have not blogged in a few days. I really wanted my next blog post to be exciting. I know if you are a blogger and house wife you are familiar with Ree Drummond, pioneer woman. Well, I had to pleasure of meeting her this weekend. And it was a dream come true. You know how there are those certain times in life where you feel like God is really pouring out His precious love on you? This weekend was one of those moments. My husband showered me with flowers and kindness. And offered anything I wanted that day! And this is why this will forever be the “Happy House Wife” blog.

IMG_1179My husband drove me to Pawhuska, Oklahoma. We went and toured the lodge, where Pioneer Woman films for Food Network, and ate at the Mercantile. The Mercantile is her restaurant and bakery. There is also a general store attached to it. This food was amazing and tasted like it was cooked with love. The people there were very welcoming and showed so much hospitality.

As we drove through the rolling plains of Oklahoma, my husband and I were in awe behind how much land there was. We truly got a new-found respect for God’s creation. We often take for granted the little things that don’t cost us a penny. While we were driving I told my husband “do you notice how everything that brings us beauty, man did not create” Man did not make trees, flowers, mountains, the sun, the clouds, the ocean, love, joy, peace a beautiful breeze on a hot day.” Man could not have done this.

In the small town of Pawhuska, you can see how material possessions are not as important as the quality of your life. That was what I gleaned from this weekend. You can have everything you want in the world, but will it add quality to your life style? I was able to watch the cows lay in the grass.

We were on the watch for some buffalo, my husband wants to raise them when we finally settle down from being a traveling military family. We plan on moving to Oklahoma, buying land and enjoying flowers, gardening, fruit trees, buffalo and two horses, “that’s what I want” Ha! My husband is the gardener, I the onlooker of all the beauty that comes from his green thumb.

I used to live a fast-paced life, but after moving to Ft. Riley Kansas, fast living is not a desire of mine any longer. I realized you can be in a hurry to go nowhere. And when you finally get there it was not as attractive as you thought. Everything that we are supposed to have in life, we will receive it. God is not going to let us miss a single beat. Now with that being said let me share some amazing photos with you guys of my birthday weekend!


The Happier House Wife!